It happens to every mom.
It starts with their first birthday. And goes on for a while. Under five years, the fuss of selecting a theme, the colours, the cake, the oohs and the aahs are strictly the mother’s purgative.
Post five years, your bundle of joy knows exactly what she wants. Maybe Dora, maybe Elsa or the entire Frozen cast..or maybe even Spiderman. But the theme is theirs and their choice. You just need to put together the colours, the napkins, the cake, the favours..oh you know what moms do when they organize birthday parties.
Then comes along nine and ten years and suddenly, the big birthday party is replaced with a smaller yet more meaningful affair. Only the family – maybe cousins. A themed cake still yes but less drama and certainly no costumes.
Over the years, we moms become experts in birthday parties. Right, girls?
The other day, a friend of mine who had a long awaited baby and was waiting to celebrate the first , the second and now the fourth birthday party was gushing about the horse themed party her little girl wanted. She had to hire two white horses and find carrots to feed them. She was running in circles – quite happily of course – in her pursuit to find horse themed napkins and invites.
My soon-to-be nine year old said very matter-of-fact that she didn’t want a mega party this time. As long as she had a surprise gift, cake on the table and a few close friends and cousins around to celebrate, she was fine with it. It was a relief – unless you have practiced it through the years, organizing a birthday party can pack a punch.
Which reminds me that post-twelve years, my son didn’t even want to bother us with the hassle of a party. Just dinner or lunch with a few close friends and a meal with the family. No thanks, don’t need the cake – and certainly not cup cakes for school.
There used to be a time when my daughter was so pre-occupied with birthday parties that she would actually cry when Happy Birthday was being sung for anyone – she thought it was always her birthday.
So, while on the topic, how do we organize a great birthday party efficiently. Maybe a few pointers thrown in would help.
- Plan in advance.
- Find the theme and get the themed stuff done well in advance – this helps you cut out stress as the party gets closer.
- Plan the menu and the placements and of course the agenda.
- Do your ordering early – the catering, the extras, the magic show, the clown.
- Remember it’s a children’s party – some parents forget this and become totally stressed out.
- Get ready to have fun along with the kids – they will love you for it.
- Understand that your house will be messed up – it’s a kids party and there’s no telling where the kids might go even though you do have a specified area for the party.
- If it’s outdoors, it’s better – more room for them to play and easier for you to clean.
So, in the end, we tuck in the memories of birthday parties, of love and laughter shared and treasured times when our children were just that, children..before they grow up and soon enough, birthdays become a card, a wish or just a sweet memory…
Cherish the memories…